October 17, 2017

end is near

yesterday around 3pm it seemed like someone turned the lights off outside. and there was a yellowish brown 'filter' feel. armageddon coming...? it seemed odd. later i read inthe news, this was explained by a weather phenomenom or something.
hmm, just learned Anthony Bourdain & Asia Argento are together. interesting.

this long read, Dirty John, was really good, reality/crime story. there is a podcast too. 

the Weinstein situation has been both baffling and not surprising at all. as a woman of course i know this happens, its happened to me, but i can easily imagine that in 'show biz' its even more commonplace...  yet to see actressess come out one by one, detailing their ordeal...  wow. im so glad its happening. im not too optimistic about things changing much nor fast but lets at least put it out there, make it known, for the hope of an improvement. this behavior suffers from daylight and transparency.

October 14, 2017

the ad guys are killing it

i found a tv show (non-reality!!) on Channel4 that im liking; Professor T. its kind of humorous detective show, with weird music.  also, i like many british tv ads. they are inventive, competion does that i guess - its the same with US ads. or am i jst imagining, perhaps they appeal for another reason? maybe cultural differences, i just havent recognized patterns?  there are geuinely surprising moments and sometimes i go "wow, good job". even car ads can be pleasing at times.

im considering an electric toothbrush. must speak with doctor, but he is usually interested in all new gadgets. in the end it may be me who is not certain and him pushing for it.

went to see The National with a friends bf the other week, he had bought tickets a long time ago when they came on sale, and was looking for people to go with. my lucky day, an amazing band.

Antti K was visiting london early week, i took him  to drag bingo with doctor.

red - not sure it is my thing

wtf Brixton Village is for sale??!! makes me upset.

lol @ Lloyds. i called them a week or so ago in order to get quarterly bank statemens on paper. (im not so fond of paper but UK as a country is, and LONG STORY). so i ask them to sent me the statements. cool. its a joint current account with doctor. a few days later he receives a letter from Lloyds informing him that i have requested to move to online statements. ummm. the exact opposite. okay, i guess someone clicked the wrong button or something. typical .

looks like im just writing less and less these days. i wonder if its gonna be the end of an era. but it would be sad if i didnt have these "notes", even if superficial, to remember things by. time will show.

i was listening to NPR radio yesterday. there was a talk about studies of how having a smart phone even in your vicity (pocket, on silent face down on the table...) affects cognitive skills and attention. their presence has become so addictive or overpowering that if we know they are around, we cant focus and our brain gets lazy. i certainly have attention span issues, thats no news. i find it veeery hard to just sit still and watch a movie these days. i think thats why i find tv easier. reality tv especially, its so predictable u dont even need to intently watch the screen, u know whats going on by just listening too. which is great cos i like to play mobile games (tetris type of stuff) while "watching" tv. i think its relaxing. but i have a feeling its not good for my head... 

got this lovely pair of heeled trainers recently. i used to own an almost identical pair a few years ago but wore them out, they were so practical. these are quite comfy too.

 id long suffered with our toilet paper holder. most of the time the paper roll was just sitting on top of it, cos we were too lazy to put a new roll in, especially me. its just too difficult with long fingers!
 solution! a roll holder that's (conveniently not visible in photo) open ended so u just slide the roll in. PLUS a phone stand on top! genius. so pleased with myself.



omg how cute is this ikea coffee table!  i would love that.

while Soydan was staying with us, we decided to buy bleach and dye, he wanted a turquoise look and i had long dreamed of trying red streaks. last minute i changed my mind tho and decided to to the short side. firstly, the color is not exatly how i envisioned - its too orange-y. second, being the bleach n00b that i am, i managed to burn my skin in places with it. the peroxide was 12% so that might have something to do with it. anyway, once the burned spots heal, i can try another darker shade of red - its generally a bit uneven too so theres that as well. i decided im okay if its goes to hell tho, i can always go back to black...

olen taas lukenut Sanomalehteä

tää Ossi N:n tapaus oli jännä. on tosiaan niin että suomessa ei ole ok sanoa olevansa työttömänä tyytyväinen (luterilainen työmoraali jne?). mutta sitten mietin että missä olisi? eri kulttuurit ja maat on niin erilaisia etten tiedä onko ne vertailukelpoisia mutta aluksikaan suomen tasoista tukiverkkoa eli työttömyys ja muita tukia ei ole kuin ihan muutamassa maassa maassa. onkohan ruotsissa hyväksyttävää sanoa että on mieluummin työtön? turkissa maksetaan muistaakseni joku 6kk työttömyystukea ja sekin on pateettinen summa. jos sanot siellä että olisit mielummin työtön ja istuisit kotona niin ei se perhe kovin hyvällä katsoa. koska kukas muu sut elättäis kuin suku. suomessa yhteiskunta on sitä mitä perhe & ystävät suurimmassa osassa maailmaa. niin silleen tottakai hämää että joku kelaa että hänellä on oikeus elää yhteiskunnan rahoilla. mutta mielenkiintoista oli kans että Ossi on ilmeisesti ihan lahjakas kirjailija - kenties vielä tuottaa jotain sillä saralla, siis kulttuurillista perintöä. ja jos kirjat myy niin siitä pitänee maksaa veroa. mut mietin et mitä vaikka venäjällä tykättäis kun joku Ossi olis et 'mun mielestä teidn pitää elättää mut' :D

tää ruotsalainen kuolinsiivous on ihan jännä konsepti. aika peruskamaa oikeastaan, eli vähennetään tavaran määrää, mutta sopii mulle paremmin ajatukseltaan, kuin konmaritus. ja on muutenkin käynyt mielessä, kun mulla tuota tavaraa on aika paljon. toki mulla pitäis olla vielä elinvuosia- joka vuosikymmeniä - useita mutta eipä sitä ikinä tiedä.

Sofi Oksasen kirje Melanialle oli outo. Melaniaa tai ketään siellä päin maailmaa kiinnostaa se kirje nolla, mutta ehkei se nyt ole se pointti, ei kai noita kirjoitella siksi että kys henkilö sitä edes näkisi, vaan kyse on jostain mielipidekirjoituksentapaisesta...  mutta se oli niin pitkä vuodatus että sopisi paremmin johonkin romaaniin. kaikki esimerkit viron torien prostituution detaileista joskus 80-luvulla tms...  jos haluaa yhtään isomman yleisön kuin suomi niin pitäs ottaa ehkä vähän helpommin lähestyttävää kulmaa ja jättää omat kokemukset minimiin. mutta ehkä tuo nyt oli enemmän just suomalaisille suunnattu julistus. en ollut ihan eri mieltä sisällöstä mutta en kaikkea allekirjoittaisikaan. ironsesti slovenia on kuulemma maailman 8. tasa-arvoisin maa ja siell Melaniaa arvostetaan menestyneenä monellakin tavalla - toki se mitä slovenialaiset ajattelee oman maan tytöstä ja mitä amerikkalaiset ajatteleen "venäjän suunnalta tulevista naisista" on eri asia. en voi sanoa ymmärtäväni Trumpin vaimoa millään tasolla, mutta ehkei itäblokin naisten mainetta voi ihan vaan hänenkään harteille heittää, hänellä on varmaan omat motiivinsa ja huolensa niinkuin kaikilla - en minäkään käyttäytyisi tietyllä tavalla ihan vaan jotta suomalaisten maine muuttuisi johonkin suuntaan, jos sellaista valtaa olisi.

harmittaa että meidän firman pikkujoulut on sillon kun mä ja lääkäri ollaan lomalla teneriffalla.

October 02, 2017

going keeping and keeping going

i keep being amazed at Amazon's great service, you just dont expect that from big companies anymore (Spotify, Paypal, BT, HP...very disappointing...). even when things go badly due to a seller or courier service, Amazon fixes it. they know it will make me eager to use them again. hell, last week we bought doctor a new phone and paid 5£ extra to buy from Amazon "directly" rather than a seller on Amazon, so, quite a strong preference. and as it happened, they used The Shittiest Courier in UK aka Hermes, and the phone never came. Hermes lied about it blatantly "it's arriving today, yes it is", but once I contacted Amazon, things started rolling, Hermes admitted having lost the phone. Amazon took ownership of the situation and worked towards fixing it, keeping me updated. the replacement arrived 2 days later and the rep who had managed the case even called after to check everything is ok. who the hell does that? :D doctor seems happy with his Galaxy Note 8 too, so all is well now.

yesterday we visited a city farm in Vauxhall.


Hugh Hefner died, not surprisingly, at 91. its been interesting to read the articles around it. i think the subject, or his 'legacy',  is causing debate cause it isnt black and white. its a mix of nearly extremes. surely his magazine promoted sexualizing women as objects and all that, and having recently read Holly Madison's book, i wasnt surprised to learn he could be quite a manipulative, selfish ass. but, the other side about him is true too, how the magazine and Hefner himself supported womens liberation movement, as well as some other minorities. a hard core feminist like Gloria Steinem (well she had her own experience the Playboy Club too) is not forgiving but i think the story just has too sides, both true. my personal thoughts are a mix of these. but when i first saw the magazine as a teenager, i mostly appreciated the photography, some of it really was very good! especially Sante D'Orazio's pictorial of Stephanie Seymour inspired me and although now i look at it like "wow thats so 90s", i have to smile, i think it had a net positive effect on me.

NYTimes obituary 
NYTime's less flattering opinion piece  
Guardian's Suzanne Moore: I called Hugh Hefner a pimp, he threatened to sue. But that’s what he was 
Guardian: Effusive Hugh Hefner tributes ignore founders dark side
very interesting how both big medias wrote a 
Huffpost:  Trans Supermodel Shares How Hugh Hefner Fought For Her When No One Else Would

another social week coming up, it seems.

September 25, 2017

trip down memory lane

Istanbul trip done. certainly a first world prob but it made me so tired... its the conundrum of wanting to see all my friends but that requires scheduling and makes things busy and exhausting. anyway, met friends, old neighbors, ate some nice foods and enjoyed the sceneries and weather. kadiköy was pretty much the way we left it, it was lovely to be back. Arttu also joined us for 5 days, its not just us who missed istanbul :D

our our home has become a  studio for dance, music etc. i bet the landlady gets much better rent from a business, too.

late high cholesterol lunch with Cansu

 Kadiköy cats = love




the night life of kadiköy... sitting on the terrace at 10pm when its still 25C at least. loooovely. for Arttu's visit, we had an airbnb booked on this street.




turkish breakfast an Zeytin

bought a few nail polishes from istanbul...  


i was surprised the mail depot was open on sunday, i had a note from Royal Mail to pick up a package so i went to get it. my usual mail man was there behind the desk, so he said he knows me, i dont need to show ID. reminded me of turkey, the friendliness. in istanbul, one of my favorite things was the neighboring shops and going and saying hello, and it warmed my heart how excited they were to see me/us. asking how life in 'ingiltere' is and so forth. i missed those people a lot.

istanbul (sultanahmet in the bg) from our friends place. 



a while ago me and doctor were celebrating our month-versary at a nearby turkish-middle eastern restaurant.

at our local Ethiopian restaurant with Can when he visited.



 when not eating out, i sometimes enjoy the delicacies prepared by our in-house chef, doctor. he just whipped this up the other day when i was crying for a snack. he is easy to love :)
i figured i should have proper rain boots ie wellingtons if i live in London. these fit the description well. 

 yesterday i had an interesting luncheon with some british ladies. ive been a member of this fb group for maybe 2 years now, it's for (loosely described) alternative women, most of who live in the UK. occasionally some arrange local meetings so i actually stepped up and put together a London meetup. i would say it was a success. but also, being surrpunded by brits only, it was a culture shock, when the discussion goes into school memories and other local things, and keeping alone with accents alone is hard... not to mention local things you just dont know about...  well, it was interesting. overall very positive. 


Imperial War Museum was surprisingly good. i am not really into the subject, not very interested in history or fighter jets...but the museum had come up highly recommended and i wanted to go somewhere with Niina. the exhibitions we saw (WW1 and Holocaust) were both very 'artsy' and imaginative. WW1 had well done video visuals, and both exhibitions were full of stories of invidual people, civilians mostly. if u dont become a pacifist by visiting this museum, i dunno whats wrong. so while good, it was also quite depressing, no surprises there.

interesting article on Cuba's really good hurricane preparedness in Jacobin.

going to see The National tonight with Jessica's bf Ollie. 

September 09, 2017

beach holiday badly needed

i think we are getting old, we are thinking of going to Tenerife this november. originally we had more exotic ideas, Marrakech flights are the same price after all! but temperatures are better in Tenerife, especially in the evenings. and yes it matters. maybe Marrackech is better when its properly warm? i have been to canary islands before but not very seriously. now im really like ok, we want a pool, we want this, we want that...  just comparing options.

so i watched Hitman's Bodyguard. not amazing but amusing enough.

our friend Can from istanbul was here for 2 days, registering with GMC. whole process took like 9 months. it was really uplifting, to see him finish the process and just hang out and chill, talk about the moving plans. of course all that is yet another process, but an positive, exciting one. it really motivated me about my per project, the 'turkish doctors to uk' group that ive been working on. its going quite well and im trying to blow more steam into it.

what annoyes me is when i say that im allergic to cats and someone replies "oh well you can get one of those hairless ones!". okay, common misconception, but im not gonna bother correcting anymore, hairless or not, hypoallergenic breeds do exist, with variable success rates. maybe one day i will look into it, if we feel ready for a pet. as far as bunnies go, ive been looking after the neighbours bunnies for 2 weeks now and i am allergic to something. maybe the hay, though. cos when i clean their toilet and lay down new hay...uhh. but bunnies need hay.

September 01, 2017

Interpol tonight

damn ive been here for a year soon!! odd feeling...  it all came true, our plans. hmm, wow. im both surprised and not surprised. i am surprised once again how much life can change, not just organically but by planning. but i am not surprised that a an idea comes to fruition, as planned, cos i do have that ability to make shit happen. maybe i need to give credit to doctor too? :) this was a team effort but i certainly pat myself on the back. anyhow, there are things you cannot control and risk involved, but nothing catastrophic happened and here we are.

next week a turkish friend is coming to register at the GMC, he's gone through the same process as doctor and should be moving in december with his gf. im veeeery excited, i have taken it very seriously to help turkish doctors migrate here, and it will be nice to have an old friend from istanbul in our new environment.

its been a while since i wrote anything... what have i been up to, besides bunny sitting..  last saturday i went to london fields where anna celebrated her birthday. i met several of her friends, it was cheery and relaxed, chill picnic stuff.


then on sunday i went to greenwich where again we headed to a park with a group of friends. i played frisbee and football bravely - very unlike me but fun :) the summer was back that weekend, and on monday, 28 degrees! i finished work early and we went for a short park stroll with doctor. see here i go again listing things ive done. well, to each their own, this is what i do to document my life and im not too apologetic about it.




this guy and his dog on the bus were a sweet team.

Atlantic: How friends become closer . this article reflected a lot of what ive been thinking in the past few years. its nice someone has put it in words, meshed with science and even given a bit of further insight i can mull over. moving, which involves losing some friends, trying not to lose some friendships, and working on making new ones, kind of gets you to the core of this. and ive had some specific 'cases' that have had me question what friendships are made of, what are the expectations in general, whats fair to expect, what do humans need and what do i in specific need from my friendships for them to work, and so on.

love to listen lately:
Låpsley: Love is Blind
Kevin Morby: Harlem River
Benjamin Clementine: London (simply amazing)
Aine Cahill: Black Dahlia
Simon & Garfunkel El Condor Pasa (If I could)  (an old favourite)

...and tonight im going to see Interpol with Ro! havent been to a concert in years. there are simply very few acts im interested in seeing, even if i listen to a lot of stuff. Interpol passes the bar though. as does The National, which im supposed to go see end of the month. both concerts are "through" friends, theyve bought tickets and just waited to find someone who wants to join - pretty ingenious i guess, concersta re so quickly sold out, when you have a chance to buy there is no time to waste...  plus i dont think i knew either of these people back when they've bought the tickets.

Ocado is pretty nice, ive ordered groceries from various companies but their customer service and communication is really good so far. as an example this informative email i just received:

August 26, 2017

bunnysitting

im delighted that Project Runway is using models of various sizes this season. it other TV news im still hooked on Border Security (Canada & Australia), Bachelor in Paradise, Ink Master and Face Off. but i should checkout Broadchurch, apparently its quality stuff.

Anna has birthday party tomorrow at a park, the weather is still quite summer-ish so not a bad idea. and there is another park gathering on sunday, with another set of friends. i think my weekend is booked? doctor is working so its good i have something to do. i do have 2 bunnies to look after, in any case!! our neighbours are on a short holiday and i get to be a pretend bunny mom! its like a dream come true! they are a sweet, mischievous girl named Chia, and a shy boy named Popeye. a lionhead and a dwarf. so cute. so soft. 

Chia tackling a banana
bunnies are not the only animals in the neighborhood...




Guardian: What if McGregor beats Mayweather? i personally cheer for Conor but nevertheless i think his odds are slim. i think everyone is in on this just for the money, anyway, so it doesnt even matter?
Harpers bazaar. My ancestors owned slaves
NYTimes: Why is is hard to make friends as an adult
Guardian: What we can expect from Vogue under Enninful (i dont read Vogue and dont know the guy but hey, reading is good)
Business Insider UK: The real unemployment rates of UK...  (when someone told me it was 4.5% i rememer thinking that cant be, and my gut feelings seems to have been right)

August 15, 2017

work got busy for a change

last week FB was showing me "memories" from x yrs ago, im like wtf, its my wedding pic with doctor. turns out it was our 2yr wedding anniversary. we minimally celebrate, even if just eating a dinner together at home, the 28th of every month, which is the day we started dating. its far more important than the practical choice we made in august 2015. although the latter is a heavy legal contract, i find more joy in thinking about our whole journey together.

NYTimes opinion section: Is naming and Shaming Rapist the Only Way to Bring Them to Justice? NO. because thats not justice, even if it sounds like it. the world has gone fucking nuts. social media vigilantism shows the weaknessess of our species. the fact that rape cases are not dealth with properly or go to court often enough is a problem, as is the shame that is still attached to it which prevents women (or men) from even reporting)...  lots of problems, but i think at least in the west -which is what i am confortable talking about cos i dont know about the rest- we are goint to the  right directions. and stooping to middle ages style vigilantism is like going 50 steps back. it could bring the feeling of getting justice to some victims, but the type and size of the punishment is then anything and everything, depending on how convincing and heartfelt your story is, how good is your online presence and what kind of "online warriors" decide to act on the fury thats sparked. perhaps someone whose very passionate about it decided it's okay to beat up the named perpetrator. are we still cheering? lets say beating someone up is a fair punishment - especially if you are a village elder in the 15th century, okay, but rape is horrible, maybe the perpetrator should be tortured too, or killed? once the online viral machine gets going, you cant stop it and the opinion piece barely touches the problems of it. saying "But when a man is falsely accused, there are a number of avenues he can pursue to seek justice." yeah. so now we force another victim to struggle with the justice system, we just change genders. the writer continues "As well as rebutting the allegations in the forum where they are raised, he can complain to the police or sue for defamation.". hah...  imagine a man who has named a rapist going online and saying "i didnt do it, she is lying". the lynch mob would just get angrier...   okay im going to stop wasting time on this, but whatever the crime i hardly think this type of behavior is the solution, we need to fix the original problem and not create new problems and problematic behaviors. im as vengeful as any, but we've created a better justice system than the village council, because emotional people can act irrationally and cause more harm. call me an idealist, then.

ostrich steak and potatoes. pretty plain...    the steak was marinated, but still. it did the job. 
 art on the wall of a pub in Elephant & Castle.

we got a spice rack! proud of adding a plastic between the rack and wall so the spicers dont sratch the wall.

just over a week ago we went to Brighton and enjoyed the Pride parade there. Brighton is known for its LGBT culture so perfect time to visit...  it was very much worth it. plus a lovely little town in its own right, i could go again sometime :) the whole town was in festival mode and the parade was amazing. Brighton is just 1h by train and the return ticket was 11£ so not bad.


August 13, 2017

brittien kylppärit


kaveri kommentoi hyvin kun sanoin et mulla on taipumuksia kehittää ongelmia tyhjästä, sanoi että 'terveen länkkärin merkki'. rofl emoticon tähän :) toisessa yhteydessä sama tyyppi vinkkasi minulle suomalaisen trans-ihmisen ehkä epätyypillisestä blogista; Musta Orkidea. en ole vielä lukenut blogin kuvausta ja muutamaa kappaletta pidemmälle, ja fiilis on että en voi olla kaikesta samaa mieltä mitä sieltä ehkä löytyy, mutta joka tapauksessa on aina mielenkiintoista lukea - sehän se saakiin ajattelemaan että miksi olen eri mieltä, mitä mun perusteet mun näkemyksille on. on aika luontevsa että kaikista väestönosista löytyy erilaisia ääniä, ja että vähemmistöt ei ole aina keskenään samaa mieltä ja että keskustellaan eroista. ehkä soraäänet on kans mielenkiintoisempia joskus kaiken muun keskellä.

tämä ei ole ongelma tyhjästä vaan ihan oikea, joskin 1st world prob: briteillä  ei ole pyyhkeissä lenksuja joista ne voisi ripustaa. siis edes käsipyyhkeissä. mitä h.... v.... ? no, tein pientä kyselytutkimusta (yli 70 vastaajaa) ja selvisi että täällä harrastetaan pyyhetankoja, ja ne joilla on ns. kuivauspatteri, laittaa pyyhkeet siihen roikkumaan. tuollainen pyyhkeen keskeltä 'roikottaminen' myös selittää miksi käsipyyhkeet on täällä 90-100cm pitkiä - tätä olin jo ehtinyt ihmettelemään. mutta meidän pyyhkeet oli kaikki suomesta tai ikeasta joten en ollut vielä huomannu lenksu-ongelmaa ennen eilistä. osalla briteistä on ihan perus koukkuja kylppärissä alteen veirrssä mutt sitten ne ripustaa pyyhkeen miten se vaan pysyy siinä ja käsien kuivausta varten se otetaan siitä pois ja sitten ripustetaan uusiks. jos kylmä-kuuma hanaa pidetää vanhanaikaisena niin mites tuo sitten? oneksi kaupasta löytyi yksi jossa oli 'designerin' nimi tagi jota voi käyttää samaan...  vrt ikea-pyyhe:


ja miksi laittaa imukupillinen koukku pistorasian päälle? pistorasia on vain jollekin parranajohärveille joissa on erilainen töpseli - nämähän ei täällä tykkää sähköstä kylppärissä joten tuokin on myönnytys. mutta ihan turha meille. onneksi sentään hana on eurooppalaista mallia...

hesari kirjoitti syksyllä julkaistavien elämänkertojen miesvaltaisuudesta. erityisen hyvää muuten lyhyessä artikkelissa oli lista naisista joista voisi kirjoittaa. koska jos Makwan Amirkhanista on kirjoitettu kirja (joka kiinnostaa kyllä!) niin ehkä pidemmän uran tehneet Kirsti Paakkanen tai Kaija Saariaho ansaisivat sellaisen myös...   itseasiassa Makwanin kirja olisi ehkä vielä voinut odottaa koska vaikka tarina kiinnostaa niin tyyppi vielä nuori joten miellään lukisi sitten kun tapahtumia on lisää kerrottavaksi.

August 08, 2017

struggling with happiness


NYTimes opinion piece on End of Life Option act. the doctor says "I’ll admit it: I want this option available to me and my family. I have seen much suffering around death." buuuuut he is not really comfy to be the one doing it? sorry my empathy just ran out. i can see its hard to change your ways and find the answers to when exactly do you help someone die, it takes a bit of time, but i wish it wasnt at the cost of patients suffering.

damn i hate to admit it but life is pretty good now. im not sure why i hate to admit such a thing, but ive always been tat way. half finnish-ness half-personality. almost makes me feel guilty, and definitely something to keep under the lid when chatting with someone whose going through tough times. im now waiting for our free range meat delivery from MuscleFood. the name of the company was a bit of a turnoff, sounds steroid-y, but maybe they first catered to gym loving Atkins dieters...i dont know. however they work with smaller farms and offer organic & free range and thats all i care about. im so god damn lucky we can afford buy whatever kind of food we want, too. joy & guilt at the same time is confusing.  then, doctor started at the new hospital last week, but they had induction first and then he had a few days off so he just started properly working yesterday. im so proud of him, really, he's integrated well despite some hardships and keeps positive. AND, i am definitely ordering thai takeaway today! AND, gonna be watching Border Security: Canada's Front Line :D i LOVE border & customs tv shows. yeah, becoming a police was one of my dreams. there is also Bachelorette final that aired yesterday but i know the result so its a bit meh to watch maybe...   just waiting for Bachelor in Paradise to start next.

chilling

i read Jeff Bezos is the richest man in the world now. i have certainly helped with that, i am an avid customer.

brunch at Aquum on sunday. they have board games, funny hats and the place has a bit of a disco feel. i lost the jenga. 


when we left Edinburgh, our train was delayed, and before there was an update if the train would ever be leaving, they announced we could take another Virgin train (east coast instead of west coast). so, in the end we left 30min late and arrived 30min earlier, cos east coast route is faster. i would say the situation was pretty well managed. the next day i got an email that due to a late service, we are due compensation. a few days later i checked our bank account and indeed, Virgin Trains had returned us 90£, which was the total of our inbound ticket price, i can only assume the train was delayed indefinitely or something...  but damn, i am thinking there are some pretty strict laws regarding reimbursing delays and cancellations since it happened automatically. very nice.

about a week after doctor got his residence card, he received a letter saying there had been a printing error, and that he should return the card and they would quickly print and dispatch a new one. the error was in the title of the card; residence permit", rather than "residence card". i remember thinking about it for about half a second and then accepting the might use the word permit loosely, although what he was applying for was specifically a residence CARD and usually brits are anal about their titles and wording. aaaaanyway after waiting for the bloody card for 6months it was hard to let go of it right away but he did, and today, a week later, a new card arrived. seems to be in order. a few were horrified of the mistake and how messed Home Office must be to make such a mistake but really...  in Turkey these things happened to every second applicant. mine had a typo too. and its not like they approached me pro-actively and made the fix easy, oh no, i had to work and fight for it. as did many others. human mistakes hape, and as much as i am not a huge fan of Home Office overall, i think they handled this in the best way possible, addressing all the issues in the letter (like, if u were gonna travel the next day, before u could get the new card, etc).

so overall lately, fuck ups have been managed quite well by the brits.

ive also recently talked to people who are quite distraught over the current immigration policies, needing a visa and whatnot. or the lack of visa keeping people apart. us, western people who are used to being able to do whatever we want, go wherever we want. it reminds me how much turkey taught me and how much easier all this, relocation, home office, brexit and all, has been just because i experienced turkey.

Guardian posted an interested POV video about a refugee's way to europe.

another Guardian video about a disable MMA fighter.

Fact of the day: 26% of NHS doctors are non-british. and the remaining 74% british includes  many who have acquired nationality, obv. Guardian's article on subject, NHS relying on foreigners. the facebook group i started for turkish doctors coming to UK is going well, 130+ members. but the article and related stuff that i read really inspired me, i think my goal is to double the number of turkish doctors in UK asap. there are currently just under or around 100 based on the statistics i dug up. 

August 02, 2017

good times how long can they last


i tried to listen to this podcast Guys We F****d which Anna recommended, but the episodes are long and quality varies. yet, ive been interested enough to keep listening to the 'not a teen, not yet a milf' episode with Jon Ronson. who is cool. i loved his article on Monica Lewinsky last year. 

i am starting to feel more an more comfortable in london. i never felt uncomfortable but obviously ive felt 'new'. but i knew london should be easy to settle to, most people are from somewhere and nobody cares (in a good way). shopping in sainsburys tonight i wondered why i would feel comfortable amidst such a mix of people, where others feel comfortable in the supermarket of the town they grew up in. i bet i would feel comfy there too, had i stayed. just, i can feel at home somewhere else fairly easily. not sure what % of that is motivation. cos ive really wanted to integrate. i met someone new today (through Vina app) and they talked about the volunteer work they do, and it reminded me of how ive considered getting into it too, cos i can, and cos it would help me integrate as well. hah, just signed up at the local council website. lets see if they will get in touch with me or not, maybe they dont need help :D i also signed up at the local hospital foundation trust a while ago, as a 'community member'. not sure what it means, if anything, but i'd like to take part in stuff! in their email it sounded fancy;
"I am writing to thank you for becoming a member of King’s College Hospital NHS Foundation Trust and to explain a little about membership and what it means to our hospital. You now join thousands of other people already supporting your local hospitals and taking an active interest in their future. As a member you are entitled to vote in or stand for elections to our Council of Governors who represents the interests of our patients and our local communities. We also want to engage with you and the local communities to hear your views and improve services for patients at all hospital sites.There are a range of opportunities for members to get involved with King’s, and it’s up to you how much or little you want to take part. You may want to attend our special member health talks on clinical topics such as Diet & Nutrition, Depression and Parkinson’s Disease or on broader strategic issues like our future plans as a leading university hospital and a part of King’s Health Partners. Members are at the heart of improving patient experience at King’s. Members currently take part in our listening events, complete surveys and join service user groups."

oh well, maybe a whole lot of nothing :D


doctor is starting at the new hospital nearby TOMORROW. we worked towards this all along...  i really hope it will be better than the first. they have a major trauma center and its more central and has a good rep...   and at least the commute will be easy! cant wait! i got him a travel mug with custom print as a gift, to celebrate. it has the symbol of medicine and "dr first name" - i know his colleagues had issues remembering his name so maybe it'll help with that.

last friday we celebrated another 'monthly anniversary'. went to the royal hospital museum, then argentinian restaurant for dinner :)

 museum;
 Argentinian restaurant Moo Cantina;
free range steak!! its been fuckin forever since i had a steak.

on sunday i went out to Regents Park for a picnic with some finnish women, also very nice.

 ordered this dress from eBay. it looked scarily tent-ish on the hanger, better when i wore it.

Brixton stuff...  this shop with its graffiti is almost opposite to the following cool building that has the bell tower; 

 


and thats a cat near our flat, chilling on a mattress someone's thrown out. 

my healthy-ish lunch? potatoes with herbs, various grains (was a frozen mix) and Linda Mc Cartney's meatless sausages.  
 something from amazon. im crazy about rhubarb & ginger candles lately.


July 29, 2017

stuff VII

oh Turkey. little by little they are taking the country to its grave;
draft law to authorizing muftis to register civil marriages (hurriyet daily)
turkish schools to stop teaching evolution (guardian)
local Amnesty International director and 5 other activists charged for terrorism (guardian)

i could go on but thats depressing enough. anyway, that country greatly changed the course of my life and i enjoyed some of my best years there and made amazing friends and we bought flights to istanbul in september for a holiday. im really eager to go back and feel Kadiköy again. they say the atmosphere keeps changing, which is understandable with all the changes... but still.

our next door neighbors are moving out. too bad, they were nice. there is always the risk that new people will have a baby and a barking dog...    just now a guy walked into the flat and was taking photos of it from outside and he saw me through the window, i smiled but he had zero reaction... hmm.

after a hot yoga craze doctor is now into swimming. a very nice hobby, should i say :) i might go and try with him, one of these days.

Amazon's customer service keeps amazing me. i have interacted with them only 3 times but they are fairly easy to reach which is really important - most big companies hide behind endless links that refer to each other. and then, whichever contact method i picked, i was able to reach a person quicky. and of course finally; the issue was always solved promptly.

the other day we went to a turkish supermarket thats in Camberwell, in other words not very far at all. i cant figure out if i didn't search before, or if i didnt search well enough or if its new, but either way, it was a happy day for doctor especially, i didnt mind practising my turkish with the staff either.


July 26, 2017

UK sightseeing

holidays done. for me anyway, doctor has until friday.  Cornwall and Edinburgh were very nice indeed. the first one with majestic views and easy chilling at Marianne's lovely house & garden. and the latter being cute & gothic at the same time. we went strolling around the city tasting and drinking everything in our way. VV & Mikko hosted us but we also met an old friend of doctors who moved to UK like 10 years ago.

Cornwall. grilling & chilling!  we had one super sunny hot day, rest foggy/grey. 



largest nachos in scotland (2.7kg). yes, my wet dream. had to share it with others unfortunately. 
 all of Edinburgh is like this, you feel like you're suddenly in the 18th century.



Glasgow



NHS and/or King's College in specific has a pretty interesting appointment reminder system here. a week before your appointment you get an automated call that asks if you are (name). when you press 1 to confirm, it reminds you of your appointment date and time and asks if you are planning to attend it or not. you confirm with 1. they must have had a lot of no-shows to set up a system like that...    my GP just sends reminder sms messages. but so i have now confirmed im attending my physiotherapy appt next monday - my 'mouse arm' keeps giving me troubles.

lovely video of london;


i bought a pair of 'period prood underwear' from Thinx when i got a discount code and free shipping. still uncertain to what extent i want to use them but we will see.