October 04, 2020

proper rainy

we had a pretty social weekend although in general ive cut socialising. we had Jess & Ollie for dinner on friday and yesterday went to Avner & Elmor, Can & Burcu also attending. really nice fun meetings. good food (especially yesterday, eh) and good people. and today is Bunday, when i rest and relax. although i am doing some laundry. doctor is reading History magazine and making sugarfree jello with berries for evening (dessert). its pretty comfy watching the grey rainy weather outside when we are so lucky. 

yesterday;

last weekend we went to Margate. seaside town on the east coast. horrible weather, decent people though. but definitely no need to go again. we were able to laugh at the misery of the experience though and in that way had a nice getaway of 3 nights.

my hairdresser is on maternity leave and i went to her replacement for a haircut. was quite happy with the result, although he was trying to convince me i need to occasionally use hair conditioner and hair masks. cos, umm, im not so sure?! i used to think so, but after dropping conditioner some 7 or whatever years ago, ive come to be pretty convinced that my hair is fine without. only in finland though, my hair gets very static so i make sure i use a conditioner there. 

 


 

a week ago my friend died from cancer. we were not super close so its not like my world turned upside down, and id had time to understand its coming. in the end i was so sad that she was alone in a hospital, but her sister came to london just in time and was allowed in the ward. that consoles me, actually. but it hits so close to home, it really couldve been me. she had changed her facebook profile pic to "in a world where you can be anything, be kind" which im sure is no coincidence. its a good sentiment to try and follow. ive been thinking about it a lot this past week. its so easy to be sarcastic, nasty and vengeful - all familiar feelings. practise prolly makes perfect in this discipline too so i just to to reduce the amount of negative, harmful stuff. i dont need to be perfect. its pretty human to feel amused when Trump catches coronavirus - not going to try get rid of that feeling. but i kind of leave it at that. i think i got my social media training during DeviantART years - sometimes its better to just move on and ignore. but kindness in general in the bigger picture of life is what i will try to focus on a little bit. in work, in daily interactions. i have a lot of space to develop there.


i didnt know who Steve Hilton was. this was an interesting little article

this book about hating men by a french feminist sounds 'interesting', im obviously suspicious just based on the name. in my mind i should read it of course to form an opinion, but more than likely i will just end up reading reviews and have a vague opinion based on those instead. personally, the few times ive spoken with someone in real life who said something akin to hating men or men being trash, they were in a bad relationship and/or had been in the past, or both. and maybe as a cherry on top had an abusive father or someting. i have understanding how obviously our experiences form our opinions, and i cant tell anyone that what they experience is wrong, but i do tend to try suggest things are not as black and white as far as genders (or sexes) go. i assume the book is titled more to attract attention, but who knows.

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