August 30, 2009

kiss on the neck unexpectedly - thnx

i ended up reading men's health (.com). "20 simple tips for perfect date". some of these sound american/british...stuff i NEVER thought of, too conventional rules, such as
"2. Call her by early evening on Monday to confirm a Tuesday get-together. (Weekends aren't for first dates.)"
err, what? if a date has been set, no need to confirm. and whats that about no weekends? who cares which day it is? whichever fits in the calendar...

"8. Men judge women according to whether they can picture having sex with them; women judge men by whether they can imagine kissing them. White teeth, fresh breath, and unchapped lips make her more apt to pucker up."
no, kissing will pass my mind too but essentially i definitely judge men by "fuckable?"

"13. When in doubt, hold her hand."
doesnt fit my finnish mindset. if in doubt, stay the fuck away sounds better. well, i dunno if some attempt should be made but the hand holding sounds forced...

"15. She expects you to know her eye color after the first date."

there were other questionable ones too... but whatever. some were really right on;

"7. Ask if she's too cold or too warm, and if changing the temperature is in your power, fix it."
great fuckin idea. thank you.

"11. Tip well: Grab the check, mentally divide the bill by 10, double that number, and throw down the tip. Do it quickly but casually. Believe me, she'll be watching."
(but probably just because this must be abroad and im clueless about tipping and always wondering how much to tip etc)

"12. If she touches your arm, she's interested; if she touches your leg, she's interested tonight."

"19. Rule of Groping: If anything happens that couldn't be shown on prime-time TV, call her the next day. Otherwise, she'll feel cheap and used."'
email or txt is sufficient

but damn, a cliché sounding list titled "41 things to make a woman swoon" hits it right on. theres barely a couple things that i think might not be great. but plenty of fuckin awesome ideas. its the little things...;)

"what to tell her during difficult conversations" not bad ideas at all. i wish men knew this shit.

Men's Health a lot of nice lists. some true, some i disagree with... but my fav men's mag is still GQ (uk).

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Jim said...

I think the cultural thing really counts. When I was visiting you guys back in June, I had to really restrain my behaviour in certain ways (handshakes, hugs, 'invading' personal space), because those behaviours are entirely standard here in Poland, and after 15 years here I've 'deep-learned' them.

Interestingly, the way Finns seem to do things is closer to how stereotypical English people behave, and how (white, non-East/West coast) Americans do too. When I'm the US I have to sit on my hands too, to an extent.

So in that respect, I've been fully Europeanised. :) Have fun in Istanbul, again :)

jenni said...

i think americans are touchers, too. the pat on the shoulder, the tap on the leg... they touch, trust me i NOTICE. british, perhaps not so much, i agree.

now, theres touching coming up in istanbul, this i know :S

Kelly said...

I've been reading your blog for some time now and have never commented....but #8 made me laugh! I am from America and I think fuckable yes or no? I think I do that because kissing can always lead to further things! Then again I also think "wonder what kind of face he makes during sex?" The crazy face can give you nightmares for a long time lol!!!

jenni said...

exactly...kissing is stop #1, then u need to think further. and the sex-face...yup. and what about the sounds he makes when coming? critical stuff... u just hope its nothing too odd cos it might make things awkward...